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Signs of a Selfish Boss

Signs of a Selfish Boss

Nealeigh Mitchell | SmallBizLink

May 12, 2010

Crashes Your Weekend:

Burning the midnight oil at the office every once in a while goes with the territory. After all, 40-hour workweeks are a thing of the past. But if your weekly Sunday stroll includes a trip to the office, you’ve got a maniacal manager. You shouldn’t be expected to clock into work at your boss’ whim.

Sticks to the Rules:

Flexibility is crucial in today’s dynamic business climate, and there’s nothing like a rigid boss to sink a team’s spirit. Fresh talent brings fresh ideas and if she’s not open to a change of perspective, it’s time for a change of regime. It may not be broken but it can always be improved.

Changes Her Tune: A two-faced boss is hard to cross. She keeps you insecure by praising you to your face only to tear you down to higher ups. She keeps you fawning for approval by complimenting a job well done (but always with suggestions for improvement). Don’t get me wrong — constructive criticism is beneficial. But if recommendations are mere ploys to dampen your drive, it’s a lose-lose situation.

Rules with a Fist:

Your boss works hard to master her domain, so expect a quick reaction at even a whiff of mutiny. So how does she rule her roost? She manipulates her minions by pitting them against each other in the battle for success. A fearful and mistrusting team won’t rebel and will continue churning out quality work to stay ahead.

Cope or Quit?

There’s only room for one at the top of the company totem pole, and your brutish boss won’t be denied the honor without a fight.

If you’re determined to stick with a job you love, always bear the bullying in a professional way. Challenging her or acting out will only fan the flames. But don’t simply wait around for her to change her tune. Keep a log of all her offenses and make sure you’re communicating your concerns as they occur. It’s possible she is unaware of her actions. If she continues her toxic tyranny, consider reporting her to HR.

And remember, there’s no shame in quitting. A manager who’s continuously eroding your confidence and undermining your best interests can wreck your resolve. No job is worth losing your sanity or self-esteem over. Go find a better springboard with a more stable support system.